The Bad Girls' Guide This is a journal based on love & relationships. It's mainly the stuff we talk about but that noone ever wrote down. It's all the stuff in all those self help books that we read, all the stuff that should be said but aren't. This is just a venting spiel, about the idiosyncrasies of dating/love & relationships and how to make it better Statistics Unique Visitors: Total Unique Visitors: Outgoing: Total Outgoing: 34 0 54 5702

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Keeping Secrets 2007-09-25 06:33:00 Wow...I never expected such an overwhelming response. I think that it was a swing vote. For some reason though, my sixth sense is telling me not to mention anything to Wifey at this time. I know that if it was me, I would want someone to tell me, however, I know how I feel about Norio and I know that I would most definitely be at outs with the messenger for a long ass time. In addition, it's ...

To Tell or Not to Tell 2007-09-23 06:33:00 Back to the discussion of the married guy with a mistress, I seem to have reached a crossroad---the dilemma is, do I tell his wife or do I keep my mouth shut? I really like his wife, I adore her, she's such a phenomenal woman. The ethical thing would be to tell her that her husband is a two timing cheat, but won't that be worse? I mean, right now, she's living her life of idyllic bliss, secure ...

The Amante 2007-09-20 06:30:00 Definition: An amante is an Italian word the describes the lover/affair you have when you are married. The amorous relationship is strictly passionate and both parties know the boundaries of the affair and don't want it to spill over to real life. In some European countries, the amante is 'expected and accepted' especially in marriages that are one of convenience, arranged, family titles, ...

Sex & Religion 2007-09-18 04:01:00 One of my girlfriends called me today in a tizzy. Her man of almost a year, got guilt tripped by his ultra conservative mother about the sexual nature of their relationship. Something along the lines of "God doesn't want you to have pre-marital sex so stop..." Being a 'church boy', of course he immediately felt guilty for his 'sins' and has now put a stop to their sexual encounters. Oh hell ... Amp

Inter Faith Relationships 2007-09-13 23:49:00 One of my dear friends asked me a question today about being in a relationship with someone from an alternate religion and belief system. How do you cope and is it really worth it? There are strong points of view that believe that interfaith dating/relationships/marriages is an exercise in futility. People are quick to point out that Paul said, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" and ...

On Staying With a Loser 2007-09-10 15:56:00 I recently came across a lady that had been in a relationship with a guy for 10 years. They live together. She's not happy with him, both inside the bedroom and out---and he doesn't seem to care. He's never given her an orgasm with penetration, and in bed it seems like she's servicing him while he doesn't even try to reciprocate. He just fucks her for his own pleasure and she'll be lucky if she ...

Idlewild 2007-09-08 02:04:00 I had a really, really great post in mind for today. But somehow I can't get it out. I'm in a dither from so many emotions rollicking through my mind. Don't worry, nothing catastrophic has happened, but sometimes I like to think more than I can write. It's not often...but it's frequent enough to leave the blog quiet even though I've just been back. So if you have a question, feel free to ask, it ...

When He Doesn't Like to Eat You Out 2007-08-26 23:05:00 Moxie got a question from one of her readers about being in a relationship with a man that doesn't like to go downtown. I'm with a wonderful man who doesn't enjoy giving oral sex. We've talked about it and he doesn't have a good answer as to why. I've asked him if it's taste, smell, etc. but he just says "I just don't like it". Fine. I am not taking it personally and I won't force him of course ...

When He Doesn't Make a Move: Meet Katya 2007-08-23 06:14:00 I have been seeing a guy casually for a couple of months now, but we only see each other about twice a month. This has been going on since about June. Initially, I wasn't very into the guy, but now I am completely digging him. When we go out he seems like he wants to be with me and always ends up suggesting something to extend our time together. Here's the kicker: He has never once in about 6-7 ...

Helping Someone That Doesn't Want to be Helped 2007-08-22 05:48:00 The person that I want to desperately help is my 17 year old sister. She had a baby last year and as a family my mother and I have been doing everything we could to make life a little easier and to (in our minds) ensure that she graduates high school as scheduled. Unfortunately my sister continuously disappoints us and doesn’t really take full responsibility for her child. With me being the ...

On Still Being In Love with the Ex: Meet Lacy 2007-08-19 04:41:00 A couple of months ago I ended it with my 2 year beau because he had started having an interest in another woman. I was hurt, angry, miserable, revengeful, all the emotions, but after a couple months I came to terms with it. He did what he did and if I’m not the one for him then so be it. We were best friends, and after everything that had happened I decided I wanted him in my life. Even if he ...

Dating Several Men at the Same Time: Meet Lina 2007-08-15 06:00:00 I'm a huge fan of your blog -- I am navigating dating at university and it's a brand new world. I've read your posts about how to date different men at the same time many times but don't have a clue how to put it in practice (and I honestly have been reading them way too many times). I have been seeing a guy for three months and he insists I not date others. I have told him many times that I ...

Linner with a Blogger 2007-08-14 05:51:00 Okay peoples, I had linner (lunch+ dinner) with Teri this Sunday and she's officially raised the bar even higher on my blog meets. She is so cool, her blog doesn't even do justice to her personality in real flesh. I used my spanking new GPS to locate her house....and trust me, I really needed it---Alameda is a town that I still can't make head or tails of. Her house is so adorable! She has a big ...

Sexy Lingerie 2007-08-13 03:45:00 For all you big ass boudoir freaks out there, this is for you. About 2 weeks ago, I discovered one of the best websites for lingerie that I've ever come across. It kicks Victoria's Secret and Fredericks of Hollywood to the curb and leaves them in the dust. I now buy all my lingerie from here, and they arrive quite quickly! I got a costume for the Fiance's birthday with all the accessories. I ...

Re: Cheating & Fidelity 2007-08-10 13:14:00 Thanks for all the comments on the last hot topic! My definition of cheating actually varies much from the one in the last post---but the conversational definition was that verbatim. I believe that with that definition of 100%, it's an unrealistic expectation that leads to disappointment from the one that expects it. Figleaf said something that struck a chord with me, "For that matter I'll go ... Amp