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Sociological Imagination 2007-08-26 08:39:00 This is the term that C.W Mills, a re-know sociologist,coined to explain what he sees as the essential task of the social science: to facilitate self-understanding. Mills argues that if we are to understand ourselves in particular, and human behavior in general. Ht thinks that when facing dramatic social changing and development, what the ordinary people need are not only information, knowledge and skills but the quality of mind, which he called "Sociological Imagination"By this, one is able to transcend personal troubles into public matters, and all the individuals problems are determined by social structure and social function. If only can one develop this sociological imagination, he/she will no longer see his/her biographies as isolated events but within the context of our society and its larger historical context.Understanding the interconnection or intersection of biography and history is the first step in self-understanding. To develop the intellectual capacity or quality of ...

Teenager Sex Education 2007-08-23 02:55:00 This morning as I drove my children to school, I heard this week’s “Edu-talk show” on the air. The topic was “The teenagers’ sexual issue”. It reviewed an alarming statistics. In recent survey to local secondary schools (I didn’t catch how many of them), they found that:13% teenager students are sexual active4% of them who do not use any contraceptive measures.... The main show carried on talking on how to make “sex education” more effective, in other word, how to teach more students to use more contraceptive measures. When asked why the students are more liberal and opened minded towards teenager sex, one of students in discuss panel answered: “The media influence”. How true it is. The bombarded, massive “media influence” on TV, movie, computer game and internet has subtly disarmed our moral standard in our society. Teenager sex is no longer viewed as moral disgrace, but accepted as a life style. The lust replaces the love, the very thing a v ...

A privilege of being a “Stay at home” mum, 2007-08-16 09:54:00 To be a full time mother or "stay at home mum" is really a privilege.Time is our great enemy for all parents, time changes our babies into teenage and adults in no time. My children need me most when they are young, while my job can wait. Their beautiful, wonderful and innocent childhood fly like wind, passing quickly, it is more worthy to enjoy these time together.The study done by Teachers College, Social work professor finds association between mothers working full time and young child’s cognitive and verbal development. Professor Jeanne Brooks of Columbia Teachers College and her colleagues found that even after taking into consideration of quality of child care, the home environment and maternal sensitivity, the researchers found lower cognitive development for the children of mothers who worked full (30 or more hours per weeks) during the first nine months of life.No one, not best childcare service can raise my children better than I can, no one loves my children more than I ...

Sermon against Homosexuality 2007-08-12 01:19:00 I have heard an insightful and very informative sermon by Rev Charles Seet at Live BP church. His sermon was about “That which is against nature”Here are key points summarized from his sermon.Sin has caused us:to change the knowledge about God;to change the worship to God;to change the gift of God.In particular case of homosexuality, our society has changed the attitude toward it over the times:Before 1967 it was widely regarded as a crime called sodomy; Sigmund Freud reduced it to a morally neutral mental illness; by the 70s and 80s, it was attributed to environmental conditioning. Later on it became an alternative lifestyle. Today it is advocated as a preferred way of life to provide the highest form of loving relationship and the best means of population control. Many famous people publicly confess that they are homosexuals, giving it a new respectful image. Within last seven years, the same sex marriage have been legalized in five countries and recognized in other three.Wh ...

Facing "Mother's Sin" 2007-08-07 10:15:00 The Sins of the MotherFrom “Stories from the motherline” by Naomi LowinskyMany have hoped to master the parental skills so that our children will grow up to be happy, well adjusted, successful and proud of us. But parental failure is almost inevitable to certain degree. Maybe it is due to generation gap, children always complain of their parents do not understand them; parents often comment the generation changes.However, the truth is that we are bound to fail our children by our own human limitation. We need to be people as well as children do. We are certain to err on the side of too much or too little control, discipline, love, support, attention, money. We are doomed to fail the ones we love the most.This is why “the terrible” is part of every mother-child relationship. Mothers and children live in different bodies, are born into different families in different historical contexts and different psychology frame. They are people in different life stages, usually of different ...

Children Discipline 2007-08-02 20:41:00 Discipline in the home and the school has become a major problem and increasing inability and inefficiency in managing children,The traditional rewards and punishments method are no longer effective but also creates a number of problems:1. Punishment has the effect of inviting retaliation. A parent who smacks a boy for hitting his sister and then sends him to his room may find that the boy scribbles all over the wallpaper. What he is saying is: “if you have the right to hurt me, I have the same right to hurt you, your things” Revenge and retaliation are characteristic of children who are controlled by punishment.2. Punishment has the effect of temporarily suppressing behavior but not of eliminating it. A parent who punishes a child for coming home late from school will find that, for a short time, the child will come home on time. But observe the child a few weeks later and you will find the undesired behavior will come back again. More punishment will again temporarily suppre ... Children

“Is not fair?” 2007-07-30 19:10:00 My children often complain “It is not fair”. They are comparing all kinds of things, privileges to go out with parents, size of birthday cakes, stories mum read, pencils received in different colours, and (always, his colours is nicer than mine)….I am always trying to be a fair mother, but soon I find there is no absolute fairness in this world.I have to take my youngest son with me every time I run errands, am I not fair to my other children?I have to spend more with one of my sons with his reading, while my daughter is proficient in reading even without my help, so am I not fair?I have to punish the bigger one when fighting happened between two of them. Our rule is the big is required always to give in to the younger, am I not being unfair?I have to give more food to my eldest son, for he has been on the growing spurge at the age of 8. …..Fairness is only found in principle, however, not in absolute quantity. As a mother, I love all of my children, but I cannot give them ...

Understanding the children’s behaviour 2007-07-29 04:10:00 Many parents have difficulties to understand their children’s behaviour. It will be helpful for parents to have the basic knowledge on human behaviour. There are two groups of psychological principles to explain the children behaviour.One is referring to Individual Psychology, which is a view of people which recognises them as active decision makers, as purposeful and goal oriented individuals, free to determine their own behaviour, understood only within their social environment, and the other views on the nature of people exist, sees them as passive products of their environment, motivated by unconscious forces such as sex and aggression.The parental relationship with their children has evolved from autocratic to democratic in today society, and the Individual Psychology principle provides a more acceptable approach for today’s parents to raise up their children in this relatively new changing society. Therefore, the following principles provide a framework for parents to under ... Children

Feminism and Women's Life 2007-07-25 03:09:00 I cannot help but thinking whether the Feminism movement did any good for women's life. What was Feminism movement really up to?In early 60's Betty Friedan published her "Feminine Mystique" in which she revealed the suffering of women:-the suffocation of the women of her time, the narrow servitude of their roles as mothers and housewives. This book evoked the longing for women for more than just being at home.While women’s legal and social status have significantly improved - women are enjoying much better human rights and gender equality today- working mothers however continue to face greater challenges compared with older women whose main roles as recognized culturally and socially were childbearing, child caring and homemaking.Since 1990, dual–career couples constituted more than 45 per cent of all married couples in Singapore and from 1980-1990, the number of dual-career couples also doubled. Today, it is estimated to constitute more than 60 per cent working mothers of all ...

Full Time Motherhood - the career with possiblities 2007-07-23 02:21:00 We have been talking about Full Time Motherhood as the career with all possibilities. Besides all other skills and experiences a mother can develop, the most important task of all for a mother is to bring up her children. This is her main duty. The career of motherhood is one of noblest, most challenging, yet most rewarding one because a child carries our hope, our linkage from present to future, our strength and weakness. A mother, being a coworker and stewardess together with God, our creator, will shape up a human. Every child is unique to his/her mother and every mother is special to her child. You don’t have to be a perfect mother, just be a whole hearted mother. What a privilege and responsibility that will be.When a woman becomes a mother, she experiences so many wonderful transformations. From a tiny egg in her womb miraculously conceived, from tiny embryo miraculously formed into a shape of a human, from the labor of birth, from the first feeding, not only physically, e ...

Full Time Fathers 2007-07-21 02:54:00 I have privilege to meet up quite a few Full Time Fathers recently. There is even a “secret business men association”. A good name isn’t it. In our society, it is not even easy to be a full time mother; I guess it requires more courage and personal sacrifice to be a full time father.Different from most of Full Time Mothers, who choose motherhood career right after their babies births, mostly of these dads had worked number of years, some of them reached in senior position, before they decided to a stay at home dad. Their children are above 5 to early teens. Mike Pearl once said, before two, a child shall be with his/her mother, after two, he/she shall be with father. There is definite place for Full Time Fathers especially today.Mr Tan is one of such stay at home dad. He gives up his high flyer banking career, as in his words, he had earned more than enough. He is now homeschooling their two boys. Though he is at home, he does not do household duties as many Full time moth ...

The childcare concern 2007-07-18 01:47:00 While we regard being a Full time mother as a privilege, we also understand that it is absolutely a personally choice.The childcare will be the number one concern of women who are not able to have such privilege. I would like to discuss the childcare options of in local Singapore context.The first option is Grandparents supervised childcare arrangement. That appears to be the most popular choice in Singapore, as Asian traditional family value still dominate in society. It echoes “Blood is thicker than water”. Many working mothers are able to return work force as early as their baby turns three months, because they are confident their children are in good hands. Grandparents, as the same time, find joy and fulfilment in taking care of their grandchildren. The couples will send their child or children to grandparents’ home on the way to work, and then pick them up on the way home. Very often, they will stay back for dinner. In such way, not only children are being well taken care, ...

A Parent’s View on "How to teach your child to read as early as two" 2007-07-16 02:50:00 A father who has been professionally teaching reading and writing for over twenty years gives us the following advice:1. This is a crucial issue. Reading skill is the most important factor for future academic success and is significantly important in being able to function in a complex world.2. There are two issues: first is inculcating a love of reading; second is the technical skill of being able to read.Reading aloud to your child at the age of three is a highly enjoyable and emotional bonding experience for the child. This storytelling reading should be presented to the child as special time between parent and child; no pressure to learn to read whatsoever. Teaching a child to read is wholly different.For most children, reading is taught, not caught; it is not a natural skill. The extent to which it has to be taught in a structured, systematic way varies from child to child, but it does need to be taught. Very few Children really 'pick up' reading; this usually happens only in ve ...

The Turning Point of Life 2007-07-15 06:57:00 The life, like river, has many turning points. For Enoch, one of the most important turning points was in the year of his sixty five, when he begot his first son, Methuselah. “Methuselah” is a very special name means “after he dies, it will come.” That tells us, something happened in Enoch’s life and he named his son, to remind others “it will come”.What was “it” that Enoch expected? We know from Bible that Methuselah was lived 969 years and on the year he died, the great floor came to the earth. Was that the special message which Enoch tried to convey? Jude 14, 15 tells us “And Enoch also, the seventh from Adam, prophesied of these, saying, Behold, the Lord cometh, with ten thousands of his saints, to execute judgement upon all and to convince all that are ungodly among them of all their ungodly deeds which they have ungodly committed, and of their hard speeches which ungodly sinners have spoken against him.” He was tried to tell the world of his time, the ...

Working mother associates poorer cognitive and verbal development of her child. 2007-07-12 02:00:00 The study done by Teacher College gives us more information how does mother's full time working affect her child:"Full-time employment by mothers by the ninth month of their child's life is associated with poorer cognitive and verbal development for these children at age three, according to a study conducted by Professor Jeanne Brooks-Gunn of Columbia Teachers College and Jane Waldfogel and Wen-Jui Han, both professors at Columbia's School of Social Work. The findings are published in the July-August issue of "Child Development."The researchers also found that the quality of child care, the home environment and maternal sensitivity are important contributors to verbal and cognitive development during the first three years of life. However, even after taking these factors into account, the researchers found lower cognitive development for the children of mothers who worked full time (30 or more hours per week) during the first nine months of life.The researchers did not find signific ...